Relationship myths are the direct results of fairy tales and romantic comedies that have us all believing that there’s actually something called ‘happily ever after’. Unfortunately, in real life, there is no such thing.
Hanging unto some childish dreams about a dashing prince coming to sweep you off your feet and riding into the sunset with you on his noble steed is as silly as expecting snow to fall in Nigeria. Okay, maybe not literally like that. But we all can’t be Meghan Markle!
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So if you’ve been stuck in a bubble of misery because you can’t seem to find true love, it could be that you are a victim of one or all of these relationship myths we’ll be discussing below.
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3 relationship myths keeping you from finding love
1. Waiting for your soul mate
Looking for your soul mate means that thepurpose of a relationship is to find the perfect partner for you. However, if you’re looking for your soul mate and you don’t find him, you end up judging yourself and wondering if something is wrong with you. Instead, ask yourself, “If I were with this person, what would my life look like?” This will help you imagine what your life would be like in this relationship. Does that match what you truly desire? If not, no matter how much you think this person is perfect for you, it won’t be your best choice.
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2. Looking for Mr. Right
When you conclude that you are looking for Prince Charming, you stop asking the questions that would allow you to create what you really desire. You should ask yourself, “What would be a great relationship for me?” Maybe you value a partner who chases adventure, or maybe you just want someone who will divide up household chores evenly with you. Be clear on what would really work for you, whether anyone else likes it or not, and then start waiting for that to show up.
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3. Going for the fixer-upper
Maybe you’re not even looking for the perfect person (because you know that doesn’t exist), but have you ever found someone and thought, “Oh well? He’s got some good stuff. I think I can fix him up.” People do this crazy thing where they think they can fix someone up and turn them into something better or something they think that person should be. If you treat your partner as a fixer-upper, at some point he is going to rebel against that because no one wants to be constantly told that they are less than. You should be willing to be with the person you’re with and not try to turn him into what you think he ought to be.
Holding on to the illusion of the fairy tale relationship will keep you from seeing the possibilities that are right in front of you.
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