A breakup can never easy and no matter how much you and your ex try to keep things civil, there will always be that lingering feeling of hurt and disappointment.
Investing your time and energy into a relationship only to see it crash eventually can be a real downer. Now imagine if the union ended with a major showdown between you and your ex. That’s enough to leave a chip on even the toughest hearts.
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In our world today where celebrities make breakups look trendy and common, it would seem a bit ridiculous if people knew you were still hung up on that dude you parted ways with months ago. But truth be told, people deal with matters of the heart differently, and it is up to you to decide when and how you want to heal. However, a nasty breakup should not prevent you from moving on with your life and finding happiness.
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Getting over a nasty breakup
That your relationship hit the rocks does not mean you are a failure or that you’re unlovable. Sometimes, these things happen and when they do, you need to pick up yourself and forge ahead.
Here are some useful tips on how to move on after experiencing a bad breakup:
1. You need to forgive yourself
This does not necessarily mean that the breakup was your fault, but it means not beating yourself up about what went wrong and why. The deed is done, so no need thinking about the ‘should haves’, ‘could haves’ and ‘would haves’. Simply see it as a lesson learned.
2. Re-evaluate your priorities
If your relationship had been front and centre in your life before, now that it is over, consider those things that are presently more important to you and focus on them. Spend time with your family and close friends and invest your time in building those relationships.
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3. Engage in meaningful activities
Try volunteering to at a school to educate young ones on a life skill you have developed, or help out at a nursing home with aged people, or simply be involved in any community work of your choice. Being a help to someone who cannot repay you is not only fulfilling but surprisingly therapeutic.
4. Give yourself time
The mistake some ladies make is to dive straight into another relationship once they get out of one. You need to give yourself enough time to heal before getting into the dating game again. Being alone for a while is not a bad thing, it is in fact the best time to sit back and strategize so you can avoid the pitfalls of your previous relationship.
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What lessons have you learned from a past breakup? Share with us below.
