i once nurtured the idea of not wanting to get married and just find some woman to have babies for me, continue to frolick around town with babes and friends till forever after reading several write ups online about disadvantages of being married. A particular Nairalander who goes by the moniker ‘killjoy’ helped fuel this thought even more.
But then again I started thinking deep and realized it will do me more harm than good if I stay single.
Life is full of problems, that’s the way the universe designed it. As human you will always be faced with challenges and problems, some bigger than you, others smaller. If you are married you will have problems from your spouse, kids, in-laws, etc, if you are not married you will still have problems from your baby mamas/fathers, the family of your baby mamas/fathers, your kids, at work, church etc. So I decided to get married and have problems rather than remain single and still have same problems.
Below are some of the many reasons you need to get married
You can’t beat nature
Yes, nature has designed we sapiens to be with one partner and form a family with children and you cant beat that. Trying to beat it will result in dysfunctional children. We are social creatures and we can only live a fulfilled life when we have loved ones around us. We are designed to by nature to live with spouse and children. We are not animals, we are humans
Loneliness
I will be 31 in few months and have friends within my age range. Most of my friends are between 29 and 33, and many of them are already getting married. I now attend their weddings almost every weekend, and I am always among the groomsmen or the best man. Very soon they will all be married and I will be left alone. They cant go to the club or bar with me like before, we cant hang out like we used to, once its 9pm they want to go home to meet their wife and kids or other times they are not just interested in going out, they want to enjoy the weekend with their family and I will just sit their lonely. No wife, no kids, nothing. If I have a baby mama, she most likely will be in custody of the kids.
As for ladies who want to remain single. 99 percent of Your friends will be married and that is when your eyes will clear. You will be lonely and probably miserable. They talk about how they are going on a vacation with hubby, you open your facebook to see their family pictures, you go to church to see them come in a family car and you are just there alone. You are hanging out with them and their hubby calls them to return home in time to get the kids dinner and get them ready for school, they leave you alone to wonder and wander.
Loneliness will set in one day, you will look back and blame yourself for walking the lonely path. Your chances of living long is even reduced. You will be 50, 60, 70 years one day, how will you cope? You might end up taking your own life.
Family pressure
Don’t take away family pressure. It will never leave. Your parents will attend wedding ceremonies of other kids in the family and will always pray to do same for their kids. Their fulfillment in life comes after they spend heavily on you to graduate with a certificate and finally get married and they can now give you their final blessings. They will never stop reminding you about bringing a wife or husband home. Your parents even stand a risk of being mocked by the society for having a child who hasn’t gotten married at age 50. I am even more sorry for you if you are a woman for family meetings will be called on top your head. Aunties, uncles, cousins etc will go to mountain because of you, and at family gatherings/meetings they must bring up your topic. In the end you will remain a menace to the family, you may never be celebrated despite even having lots of money.
You can’t win society
That’s society for you. A cliché goes thus “If you cant win them, you join them”. So just join the rest of the society cos you will never win.
Everyone expects you to get married once you hit 24 as a female and 30 as a man. You wont get the deserved respect from people, you will be mocked, you will always have to bury your head in shame. Everyone thinks it is abnormal for you to be Miss so and so at age 35 instead of Mrs. You will always have to explain your idiosyncrasies to people, always want them to see things from your viewpoint why you don’t want to get married. No matter how rich you are, everyone will think you are not complete without a man or woman to call a spouse. If you doubt me ask Linda Ikeji and Don Jazzy. Once Linda Ikeji says something not pleasing to people, they will bounce on her with this everly unchanging lines “Madam go and marry” same applies to Don Jazzy.
99.2 percent of the people will not buy your bullcrap idea. So oga, madam, you cant win us, never. Just join us.
Think about your children
It is so funny how many of you who don’t believe in marriage want children and that’s all. You are selfish. Think about yuour kids. They will grow up to see their friends returning home to their mum and dad but they have just one parent. It is understandable if you are divorced, widowed or separated, at least that some reasonable excuse and you can get married to another person later who will act as their foster mum/dad. But your kids ask you why is mum or dad not living with you and your answer is that you didn’t like the idea of marriage that’s why you only made their dad donate some sperm into your vagina to give birth to them. Your kids will be mocked at school and home, and the blemish might never leave them forever. Your kids are better raised by the two parents than you alone.
Your sexual life
So you don’t want to get married but want to keep enjoying sex. You will contract infections, life threatening infections. As a man, today na tall girl you carry come, tomorrow short one, next tomorrow dem see you with light skinned, the next time na dark babe, for how long would you live that way. You want to continue to live an irresponsible lifestyle till 35, 45, 50, 70 years of age? All your friends are married and enjoying fine sex with their wives but you are chasing everything under the skirt. That’s not a good life bro.
As a lady how would you cope with sexual gratification. So after getting sperm donation into your vagina from men to give birth to children you hit the street to start sleeping with every Tom, D!ck and Harry. Once you reach age 40 your beauty is already greatly diminished and men of your age range wont find you appealing again, you are now left with no choice than to hang out with young boys of 25-30 years of age, paying them for their service as a sugar mummy and that’s if you have the money to maintain such life. So it’s a life of sugar mummy you want to be living abi. Soon your news will spread all over the metropolis and everyone will know how irresponsible you are. By the time you are 50, 55 your body don old finish, you will sit down and think abut your miserable life in pity.
Conclusion
The advantages of getting married far outweighs the opposite option, so by all means my brethren, marry.
And I read how many of you think it is only the African mentality that states that a person must be married. You are wrong. I expect you to know better. You watch movies, read books, novels, read stories on social media etc, you should know that even whitepeople in advanced countries think like this. White parents wants their kids to get married. The white society largely think it is foolishness to remain single, ladies from 30 years of age are mocked in America and England for being single, their families are worried for them. It is a general thing and not pertinent to Africa. The other day I read on DailyMail Uk how a 33 years old lady commited suiced because no one has asked for her hand in marriage. Even their celebrities who we think don’t give a hoot about marriage end up settling down, they might get divorced a thousand times but they belive so much in marriage they don’t mind doing it 10 times in the course of their lives. Do your research well before drawing any conclusion.
But then again I started thinking deep and realized it will do me more harm than good if I stay single.
Life is full of problems, that’s the way the universe designed it. As human you will always be faced with challenges and problems, some bigger than you, others smaller. If you are married you will have problems from your spouse, kids, in-laws, etc, if you are not married you will still have problems from your baby mamas/fathers, the family of your baby mamas/fathers, your kids, at work, church etc. So I decided to get married and have problems rather than remain single and still have same problems.
Below are some of the many reasons you need to get married
You can’t beat nature
Yes, nature has designed we sapiens to be with one partner and form a family with children and you cant beat that. Trying to beat it will result in dysfunctional children. We are social creatures and we can only live a fulfilled life when we have loved ones around us. We are designed to by nature to live with spouse and children. We are not animals, we are humans
Loneliness
I will be 31 in few months and have friends within my age range. Most of my friends are between 29 and 33, and many of them are already getting married. I now attend their weddings almost every weekend, and I am always among the groomsmen or the best man. Very soon they will all be married and I will be left alone. They cant go to the club or bar with me like before, we cant hang out like we used to, once its 9pm they want to go home to meet their wife and kids or other times they are not just interested in going out, they want to enjoy the weekend with their family and I will just sit their lonely. No wife, no kids, nothing. If I have a baby mama, she most likely will be in custody of the kids.
As for ladies who want to remain single. 99 percent of Your friends will be married and that is when your eyes will clear. You will be lonely and probably miserable. They talk about how they are going on a vacation with hubby, you open your facebook to see their family pictures, you go to church to see them come in a family car and you are just there alone. You are hanging out with them and their hubby calls them to return home in time to get the kids dinner and get them ready for school, they leave you alone to wonder and wander.
Loneliness will set in one day, you will look back and blame yourself for walking the lonely path. Your chances of living long is even reduced. You will be 50, 60, 70 years one day, how will you cope? You might end up taking your own life.
Family pressure
Don’t take away family pressure. It will never leave. Your parents will attend wedding ceremonies of other kids in the family and will always pray to do same for their kids. Their fulfillment in life comes after they spend heavily on you to graduate with a certificate and finally get married and they can now give you their final blessings. They will never stop reminding you about bringing a wife or husband home. Your parents even stand a risk of being mocked by the society for having a child who hasn’t gotten married at age 50. I am even more sorry for you if you are a woman for family meetings will be called on top your head. Aunties, uncles, cousins etc will go to mountain because of you, and at family gatherings/meetings they must bring up your topic. In the end you will remain a menace to the family, you may never be celebrated despite even having lots of money.
You can’t win society
That’s society for you. A cliché goes thus “If you cant win them, you join them”. So just join the rest of the society cos you will never win.
Everyone expects you to get married once you hit 24 as a female and 30 as a man. You wont get the deserved respect from people, you will be mocked, you will always have to bury your head in shame. Everyone thinks it is abnormal for you to be Miss so and so at age 35 instead of Mrs. You will always have to explain your idiosyncrasies to people, always want them to see things from your viewpoint why you don’t want to get married. No matter how rich you are, everyone will think you are not complete without a man or woman to call a spouse. If you doubt me ask Linda Ikeji and Don Jazzy. Once Linda Ikeji says something not pleasing to people, they will bounce on her with this everly unchanging lines “Madam go and marry” same applies to Don Jazzy.
99.2 percent of the people will not buy your bullcrap idea. So oga, madam, you cant win us, never. Just join us.
Think about your children
It is so funny how many of you who don’t believe in marriage want children and that’s all. You are selfish. Think about yuour kids. They will grow up to see their friends returning home to their mum and dad but they have just one parent. It is understandable if you are divorced, widowed or separated, at least that some reasonable excuse and you can get married to another person later who will act as their foster mum/dad. But your kids ask you why is mum or dad not living with you and your answer is that you didn’t like the idea of marriage that’s why you only made their dad donate some sperm into your vagina to give birth to them. Your kids will be mocked at school and home, and the blemish might never leave them forever. Your kids are better raised by the two parents than you alone.
Your sexual life
So you don’t want to get married but want to keep enjoying sex. You will contract infections, life threatening infections. As a man, today na tall girl you carry come, tomorrow short one, next tomorrow dem see you with light skinned, the next time na dark babe, for how long would you live that way. You want to continue to live an irresponsible lifestyle till 35, 45, 50, 70 years of age? All your friends are married and enjoying fine sex with their wives but you are chasing everything under the skirt. That’s not a good life bro.
As a lady how would you cope with sexual gratification. So after getting sperm donation into your vagina from men to give birth to children you hit the street to start sleeping with every Tom, D!ck and Harry. Once you reach age 40 your beauty is already greatly diminished and men of your age range wont find you appealing again, you are now left with no choice than to hang out with young boys of 25-30 years of age, paying them for their service as a sugar mummy and that’s if you have the money to maintain such life. So it’s a life of sugar mummy you want to be living abi. Soon your news will spread all over the metropolis and everyone will know how irresponsible you are. By the time you are 50, 55 your body don old finish, you will sit down and think abut your miserable life in pity.
Conclusion
The advantages of getting married far outweighs the opposite option, so by all means my brethren, marry.
And I read how many of you think it is only the African mentality that states that a person must be married. You are wrong. I expect you to know better. You watch movies, read books, novels, read stories on social media etc, you should know that even whitepeople in advanced countries think like this. White parents wants their kids to get married. The white society largely think it is foolishness to remain single, ladies from 30 years of age are mocked in America and England for being single, their families are worried for them. It is a general thing and not pertinent to Africa. The other day I read on DailyMail Uk how a 33 years old lady commited suiced because no one has asked for her hand in marriage. Even their celebrities who we think don’t give a hoot about marriage end up settling down, they might get divorced a thousand times but they belive so much in marriage they don’t mind doing it 10 times in the course of their lives. Do your research well before drawing any conclusion.
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